have always talked about the option of adoption, even before we were
married. We see it as a ministry and feel as through God has called
believers to care for orphans. People tell us we are crazy. But we feel
very strongly that this is a calling and that we are following God's
plan for our family. "If I acted crazy, I did it for God; if I acted
overly serious, I did it for you. Christ’s love has moved me to such
extremes. His love has the first and last word in everything we do." - 2
Cor 5:13. In addition to having a heart for adoption, we also feel
called to add to our family. We dreamed of having a large family and
were very saddened when we realized Hannah would no longer be able to
have children. (Hannah had to have an emergency hysterectomy at the age
of 23). We love kids and feel as though our family is not yet complete.
Adoption is the perfect option for us! We have the space, the time, the
desire, and most importantly, the love to give. We have open hearts and
arms and look forward to adding an addition to our family.
We have a passion to help those who are in need, and what could be a
greater need than to love those who are alone? Those who have no family to love and care for them? Adoption has always
been a consideration for us. We wanted to make a difference in the
biggest way possible and we felt a distinct call to make a difference by
Beginning in May 2012, Hannah and I started this adoption journey.
However, our story is more than just one of adoption. We wanted to
pursue a very special kind of adoption. We have developed a tender-heart
towards those with special needs due to our own experiences with our
son Benji’s extreme prematurity (born at just 26 weeks) and Down
Syndrome. We witnessed first hand, the daily struggles Benji endured and
then watched as he thrived because of the love and support of his
family. A family who loves him unconditionally. We want to bring that
same unconditional love to another child with special needs,
specifically Down Syndrome. We feel as though we are well equipped to
care for another special child who may have some of the same struggles
as our son.
During our time of waiting for a special match, an agency contacted us
about a possible opportunity in Macedonia. However, there was a road
block as Macedonia does not have an established program for
international adoption – period. What could we do? Did this mean that
the doors were closed? To make a long story short, the doors have been
opened! We are now the pilot family for a new adoption program for
special needs children from Macedonia. We are hoping to be the first
family in the United States to adopt a child from Macedonia through the
Hague adoption system. The program is not yet open to other families,
but we are hopeful that we can help create a successful program that
would assist in finding families for hundreds of precious children with
special needs. In the past 13 months, we have connected with an
outstanding agency to start a new adoption program (essentially opening a
country for international adoptions), converted our home study from
domestic to international, and compiled our dossier. It is currently
being translated into Macedonian. Its been a long year as we've waited
anxiously for things to come together. Thus far, the doors have opened
and we are pursing this opportunity with excitement and A LOT of FAITH!
Sometimes people ask us, "Why? Don't you already have your hands full?
Do you really think you can handle it?" Our answer? "You think our hands
are full? You should see our hearts!" We believe we can not only
"handle" it, but that we would thrive! We feel as though adding a child
with special needs would be like adding the missing puzzle piece.
We will admit that before Benji was born, we probably never would have
considered adopting a child with special needs. But our world changed
the moment we received the amnio results. Down Syndrome has changed our
life...and for the better. We have chosen to embrace our new path and
would like to invite another little blessing to share in our
special-needs journey. We adore our children more than anything and
Benji certainly is no exception. We love him unconditionally and
sincerely hope to add another special blessing into our lives!
For us, our calling is to raise our children to LOVE God and others and
help those who cannot help themselves. To us, that means a child with
special needs. We have been called specifically to adopt. God has given
us the capacity to love another child and until he/she comes home, there
will be a void in our hearts.